I have a itunes account and a new laptop but cant find my muisc on itunes

Your iTunes account does not store your media files. You need to copy iTunes folder from your old computer to the new one.

Refer to these articles:

iTunes: How to move your music to a new computer

http://support.apple.com/kb/HT4527

iTunes: Back up your iTunes library by copying to an external hard drive

http://support.apple.com/kb/HT1751

Your music will only be where you put it.

it will not magically apear on a new computer.

Copy it from your old computer, or your backup copy of your old computer.

Wow , I tunes should always keep a back up of your music.. to me, that's just as important as my pics!

Unless you've taken active steps to backup your pics nothing is backing them up either. See Backup your iTunes for Windows library with SyncToy. The same tool that I suggest for iTunes can also be used to backup your other personal data.

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